Obviously I’m talking about two adults, I’m just wondering when it goes from okay to “a bit iffy”, either older or younger

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    Are there any?

    If you’re 18+, you’re free to be with whoever you want to be. As long as no abuse is going on in either direction, and both are happy, who am I to judge

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        That’s not what’s being said. From the context of an adult dating some, 15/16 is too young unless the older person is really close to that age (18, 19 at a push and I only think like that because I’m from somewhere with an age of consent of 16. Places with AoC of 18 would obviously be skewed older).

        When one of the people is on the younger side, the old rule of thumb (age of older person/2+7) is a best practice for what would be considered inappropriate.

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          I was asking if they thought that people under 18 shouldn’t date.

          15 and 16 pair work by the 1/2 + 7 rule, but not by “Anything goes 18+” rule

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            “Anything goes 18+” doesn’t exclude the possibility of some things going <18. I think the name of this fallacy is like “denying the antecedent” or something nerdy like that

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            I know what you were asking but your question reads as “So you don’t like waffles?”. No-one was saying anything about anyone under the age of 18, only what minimum age is appropriate for anyone who’s already a legal adult. I think 15-17 are fine dating amongst themselves but that’s an age where parental consent is concerned in a lot of places.

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              Oh, interesting! Is parental consent legally required for certain ages to date in some places?

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                This is where I can only speak broadly since every country (and state/province) has it’s own laws but from a legal standpoint, minors need parental consent to do a great many things. Dating in the broad term such as a young couple going to see a movie with each other would likely be seen as an innocuous activity and not worth a court’s time. Where laws get involved are when it comes to physical intimacy and they can be loose or draconian. Just in the US alone, there are laws that dictate minors of the same age are able to do as they please, some have the “Romeo & Juliet law” otherwise known as the close-in-age law, and others deem physical intimacy between minors as strictly illegal meaning if 2 minors of the same age had sex, they’d both be committing sexual assault against a minor. To put the power of parental consent into perspective though, in the UK it was possible for a couple wherein one or more of the two were 16 or 17 were legally able to marry with parental consent. This was true until as recently as 2023 due to child abuse issues but that’s incredibly recent for such a thing.