I listen to a lot of music in languages I don’t understand. Growing up I especially loved Rammstein. No clue what they were saying until I was older, but feeling is feeling.
There’s a time for both instrumental and vocals, and that’s of course dependent on my mood and focus. I’ll put on something like an elder scrolls soundtrack or lo fi hip hop if I need to focus.
Not really incel in that I didn’t blame or resent women or anything but I was pretty low self-esteem (this years and years ago). Got my first job, started exercising, eating better, and literally within like 6 months of committing to just focusing on my own self-improvement and being comfortable with my own independence I met my future wife lol. That self-confidence may have led me to saying yes to invitations I otherwise either never would’ve received in the first place or never would’ve accepted.
So a combination of a) Being comfortable with yourself, by yourself, and not actively looking but rather letting things organically happen naturally, b) active self-improvement, and c) putting yourself out there a bit by way of hobbies and work, etc.
To each their own, but similar to glp-1, not for me. I’ll just age naturally and do my best to maintain levels via diet and exercise.
I had one of the weirdest conversations with acquaintances at a lunch outing one time, and it was about them using testosterone to, uh, not look like Joe Rogan? Idk. They were all conservatives and certainly the first to be opposed to LGBTQ+ rights or other forms of gender-affirming care.