Millennial here. I like not being a public nuisance and having functional lungs, a liver, and what little of my mental faculties I haven’t lost to mental illness, so no I don’t partake

Embarrassed? My dude, you should be angry. I’m sure your dad’s coming from a good place but he’s still running roughshod over your agency and free will by doing this. This is pretty close to abject disrespect of your choices (and possibly hers).

You need to nip this in the bud and make it clear you won’t tolerate being pushed around like this. Time to show some of that steel spine, buddy.