I agree with the fact that it’s easier for everyone to share the same name, especially when one parent travels alone with the kids. It’s such a faff (with good reasons) if you don’t have the same.

The issue is more that it’s often assumed that the wife has to take the husband’s name by default, rather than it being ultimately a choice between the couple.

Had this specific issue a couple days ago, but, to make it worse, the up-to-date package was not yet available. So discord would straight up not start at all.

So, to add another tip: telling discord to shut up about updates is the only reasonable response to that bs in my opinion. I’ll update when I want to, thank you very much. Just add "SKIP_HOST_UPDATE": true in the settings file at ~/.config/discord/settings.json to put this software in its place.