It’s a red flag for as long as longevity in a relationship goes. If everyone is on board and knows the likely outcome then it just is what it is. Have fun and party ways. But, it sounds like the end goal for her might be to get married and do the “live happily ever after” thing. Then yes it’s a red flag in the sense that she would likely be wasting her time.

This doesn’t mean you’re a bad person, imo. Especially since you let her know your history and each outcome. And, it’s pretty reasonable for her to be hesitant to commit if she knows it’s not likely going to last because you will inevitably get bored.

Just my 2 cents anyway.

I still use hexchat… suppose i shouldn’t since it’s not being updated anymore. But, I’ve tried a bunch and it’s the only one i like.

discreetly? before being 100% work from home, i used to stream my tv with plex with my tablet on my desk. I’d usually just put one earbud in and leave the other ear to hear people if they needed me.

In highschool however (back in the late 90s) i used to listen to music from my walkman by fishing the corded earbuds from my pants pocket and in thru my sleeve. I’d hold the earbuds in my hand and the oversized hoodie sleeve would conceal everything perfectly. I’d rest my head in my hand with the earbuds and I’d look like any other student getting their work done.

You mentioned your generation so ill put myself as xennial.

I dont use tobacco at all. Never seen the appeal of it myself.

I have a beer on occasion and sometimes use wine in cooking.

I use weed regularly for sleep and shoulder pain

GOBBLESS YA SON