This is called, “yucking someone’s yum.”

You didn’t say, “can’t be”, thats why I said it’s like you said that.

We didnt call it, “incel” 100 years ago when someone acted like an incel. If someone was making jokes and promoting a mindset at the time that would now be labeled “incel”, then we can retroactively say the ideology they promoted fits our current label.

I am in the same conversation, and I hear what you’re saying. I don’t think you sincerely understood what I was saying the first time.

That’s like saying someone can’t be a homosexual in ancient Rome because the word didn’t exist yet.

Like, in an extremely pedantic way you could say that, but it doesn’t reflect what was actually happening.