See, this is flawed. You clearly don’t understand how demeaning it is for you to be approached sometimes multiple times a day to be treated like a sexual object while you’re just trying to go about your day. The context is important here. If I were doing this at a dating function, or an online dating app, obviously that would be ridiculous. But I (and many women like me) don’t want to be constantly sexualized and objectified in every aspect of my life. I don’t care what your intentions are, you’re ruining my day coming up to remind me of the rampant misogyny that fuels these interactions. You want to flirt with me? Get my fucking consent. It is not hard to flirt with me in a social context where it is acceptable to do so, where there is an expectation of it. And if a man came up to me during those contexts? Honestly, I’d be caught off guard and incredibly confused because I only attend gay/lesbian dating functions, so I’m not sure what exactly I’d do, but it would be much more understanding. Well, at least so long as they take no for an answer.
How about we stop normalizing objectifying women? If you’re interested in someone beyond a one night stand, here’s an idea: introduce yourself and get to know them. If you are looking for a one night stand, do it somewhere it’s more appropriate. I don’t want to be stopped while I’m shopping for my groceries to turn down men who are struggling to look anywhere but my chest. It’s dehumanizing. You wanna ruin my day? Don’t be surprised if I ruin yours.
Oh, and to answer your question, I don’t approach people on the street and sexualize them. And if I did, then I’d damn well deserve to be knocked down a peg. I don’t need a constant reminder that some random guy wants to fuck me. Perhaps if your flirting wasn’t exclusively made up of poorly packaged excuses to say how the way I look makes you horny, I’d be a bit more accepting. After all, a genuinely nice comment about something I’m in control of and not merely my physical appearance is welcome. In fact, I respond quite well to that. Flirt with me in a respectable way that doesn’t ruin my mood, and I’ll be nice and polite when I turn you down. But that almost never happens with men. It’s the blatant sexualization that I have a clear problem with, and that is when I go out of my way to attack someone’s ego. Any of the “decent people” who approach me can do so in a way that respects me and treats me like a real human being, and not merely an object to fulfill their horny desires.
See, this is flawed. You clearly don’t understand how demeaning it is for you to be approached sometimes multiple times a day to be treated like a sexual object while you’re just trying to go about your day. The context is important here. If I were doing this at a dating function, or an online dating app, obviously that would be ridiculous. But I (and many women like me) don’t want to be constantly sexualized and objectified in every aspect of my life. I don’t care what your intentions are, you’re ruining my day coming up to remind me of the rampant misogyny that fuels these interactions. You want to flirt with me? Get my fucking consent. It is not hard to flirt with me in a social context where it is acceptable to do so, where there is an expectation of it. And if a man came up to me during those contexts? Honestly, I’d be caught off guard and incredibly confused because I only attend gay/lesbian dating functions, so I’m not sure what exactly I’d do, but it would be much more understanding. Well, at least so long as they take no for an answer.
How about we stop normalizing objectifying women? If you’re interested in someone beyond a one night stand, here’s an idea: introduce yourself and get to know them. If you are looking for a one night stand, do it somewhere it’s more appropriate. I don’t want to be stopped while I’m shopping for my groceries to turn down men who are struggling to look anywhere but my chest. It’s dehumanizing. You wanna ruin my day? Don’t be surprised if I ruin yours.
Oh, and to answer your question, I don’t approach people on the street and sexualize them. And if I did, then I’d damn well deserve to be knocked down a peg. I don’t need a constant reminder that some random guy wants to fuck me. Perhaps if your flirting wasn’t exclusively made up of poorly packaged excuses to say how the way I look makes you horny, I’d be a bit more accepting. After all, a genuinely nice comment about something I’m in control of and not merely my physical appearance is welcome. In fact, I respond quite well to that. Flirt with me in a respectable way that doesn’t ruin my mood, and I’ll be nice and polite when I turn you down. But that almost never happens with men. It’s the blatant sexualization that I have a clear problem with, and that is when I go out of my way to attack someone’s ego. Any of the “decent people” who approach me can do so in a way that respects me and treats me like a real human being, and not merely an object to fulfill their horny desires.