• Dremor@lemmy.world
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    I seriously can’t understand those who don’t use condoms by default. No contraceptive is 100% foolproof, so using a backup is always a good thing.

    And seriously, if the friction is the only thing that make you enjoy sex, and not with whom you have sex with, you seriously should reconsider your relationship.

    Édit : to clarify, I’m not saying that sexual gratification is a bad thing, just that it shouldn’t be the only mean of gratification.
    Doing it with someone one love is as gratifying as doing if for pure sexual pleasure, if not more, so if having a condom (which some might find uncomfortable) is enough to ruin sex for a guy… Maybe that relationship has more to do with pleasure than genuine love.

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      No contraceptive is 100% foolproof, so using a backup is always a good thing.

      Hormonal contraceptive efficacy is in the 99.8X% range. Using another method on top of it makes a difference so small that it’d be within the margin of error of any attempt to measure it.

      This is like saying seat belts aren’t 100% foolproof, so you should always also wear a helmet while driving a car.

      And seriously, if the friction is the only thing that make you enjoy sex

      1. Friction is the only way anyone will orgasm, and good luck finding anyone who’d say they’d prefer if they didn’t orgasm during sex.
      2. Seeking pleasurable physical sensation is not equivalent to not enjoying a sexual encounter without it. This is like telling someone who says they prefer pepperoni on their pizza that they don’t actually like pizza, just pepperoni.
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        Probably not the best example to use. The most common injuries you get in a car crash while wearing a seat belt would be prevented by wearing a helmet. In fact, race car drivers are required to wear a helmet and a neck brace as essential safety gear along with their five point harness.

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          Haha ya when I read that helmet comment, my first thought was a helmet would definitely help.

          You’re never going to convince everyone to wear a helmet when driving though.

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      And seriously, if the friction is the only thing that make you enjoy sex, and not with whom you have sex with, you seriously should reconsider your relationship.

      Why would you choose to do anything for fun that isn’t mutually enjoyable? You can enjoy both your partner’s company and also the activity you do together at the same time. It’s not one or the other. Don’t like condomed sex? Then don’t do it. There’s more to a romantic relationship than sex.