I mean like, actually understand beyond just exchanging a few words a day. Like knowing hobbies, favorite foods, political opinions, favorite tv/movie/youtube channels/music/genre of entertainment, etc… overall likes and dislikes… you know what I mean…
As to why I’m asking: I feel like my family is just a bunch of strangers sometimes…
I feel like nobody really understands me.
I understand my parents and they understand me.
I understand my children and they understand me.
I absolutely do not understand my wife. She is a beautiful mystery. Fortunately our children understand her as well and can translate for me sometimes.
My wife tries to be a good mother, and much of it she does extremely well, but then she goes and makes some extremely illogical decision that have no basis in reality. I support her to show a united front in front of the kids, but the kids aren’t stupid and have figured out that it isn’t coming from me and are starting to resent her.
She’s always been like this, and it’s just something I’ve understood and accepted as part of the package that she is. The kids didn’t choose it though so it’s tough to understand why this happens.
When I say illogical, I mean things like they’re not allowed to go swimming at indoor pools. Outdoor pools or the lake are fine though. I have never been given a reason for this, it only started during/after covid.
Specific video games are banned for violence, despite other more violent or graphic games being approved. Usually just because they asked at a bad time, and instead of changing her mind later she just holds the line.
I’ve talked to her about it. She ain’t budging.
Sorry for the rant.