Obviously I’m talking about two adults, I’m just wondering when it goes from okay to “a bit iffy”, either older or younger

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      I can’t imagine a 22yo with 30yo.

      You are going through such different stages in your lives.

      One is most likely still in school, the other may be trying to run their own busuiness, or strive for children. There may be common grounds, but at 22 I would not suggest settling down.

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          I’ve known a guy, dated an 18yo while being ~33-35…

          We sat down and talked about the relationship.

          Me: dude, it’s fine if you tell me it’s all about sex, just please tell me what do you really get out of that relationship?

          Dude: no you don’t get it, she’s so mature for her age, we have common things, we talk a lot

          Me: what do you talk about? do you talk about her homework?

          Dude: noo, we talk about life and such

          Couple weeks later dude is single. At least then he admitted it was just about the sex.

          The gap was wider than 22 and 30, but still, it’s too much.

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            18 is definetly too low, they still look like children to me I agree, but 22-23? If they work they arent behind me in their life. But yeah the gap is wide.

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        Honestly, I’ve met so many people at either age or older who were at either stage in their life. A 22 yo can be done with their training and fully working, even having their own business while a 30 yo is still trying to find themselves.

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          Sure, but how common is that? There are exceptions to every rule.

          But still at 25 your brain is not fully formed, and as such you may consider some wilder ideas.

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            very common in major cities.

            maybe less so in rural areas where people don’t go to college and tend have limited opportunities and ‘settle down’ earlier.