Cyrus Draegur

Actually, you know, I could afford to keep that in mind more often. I’ve suffered with poor self esteem in the past myself, and so I know just about everyone can use reassurance sometimes. It’s just a matter of figuring out how to validate someone else’s insecurity without creeping them out and also without becoming an enabling crutch that they lean on more than is healthy or appropriate.

Empathy can be toxic if I’m misreading, too… It’s possible to honestly believe I’m attempting to reassure someone and end up saying something that only exacerbates their insecurities x_x I don’t even know how it turns out like that, probably because I’m just not very good or practiced at socializing. But usually I’ve tended to err on the side of caution and keep my mouth shut.

I dunno. I’ll have to think on it more as to whether or not I want to try proactively engaging on that again now…

No. Once bitten twice shy, and I got bitten over and over again. Falling in love with every person who was nice to me in high school was a massive mistake and caused nothing but hardship. The last two decades have been relatively peaceful because I don’t buy it anymore. Fuck reading between the lines, fuck hints, fuck signals and vibes. I’m never acting unless I receive DIRECT CLEARLY EXPRESSED FREELY GIVEN ENTHUSIASTIC CONSENT and not a moment sooner.

I will never trust my ““intuition”” ever again.

Are you kidding? The only thing more busted than that machine are his MOVES! I’m drinking until I get the warm fuzzy tingly fluttery feeling in my chest and then I’m gonna watch him so much more intently…

And I’m gonna be cheering for him and making catcalls at him the whole time :3

i could be reading some fucking manuals right now instead of lemmy…

Why aren’t these chuds fearing for their lives? Why aren’t they being dragged out into the street and strung up by their own intestines? I thought this world was supposed to defend freedom. Guess not.

Oooh how do you do that user tag function? I couldn’t find it when I looked just now and it appears as though we’re using the same frontend…?

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Okay I’m gonna pop off a hot take that I have no intention of defending but it has raised interesting conversation in the past:

Yes, men are in fact inferior, and I say this not because I particularly like it, but because the way masculinity manifests in mammals is through the y chromosome acting not like a legitimate whole instruction set in itself, but rather more like a “patch” or, to put it in colloquial terms, “DLC”: DownLoadable Content does not work without the base game, and the y-chromosome cannot function without an x-chromosome.

An egg is fertilized XY and the Y is completely non-functional? Congratulations: this clump of cells will develop into a sapient individual whom is intersex but appears entirely feminine.

An egg is fertilized XY and the X is completely non-functional? This clump of cells will never develop into a person. At most it will be ejected as a miscarriage.

Male mammals are derivative knockoffs of the default (female) template that exist to perform dangerous functions that enhance the survivability of a population at large at the expense of individual survival and prosperity. They are hormonally predisposed to aggressively occupy, hold, and defend territory, and get killed sacrificially in conflict while the rest of the specimen’s family group can either hide or escape to continue the gene line without them.

And again - I’m describing it like this NOT because I particularly like it or agree with it or think it’s ideal! It kinda sucks actually. But accepting this has helped me to better recognize the pitfalls of nature and step around them. I can’t even begin to list all the many BRUH MOMENTS I’ve avoided by realizing internally, “wait a darn minute, is this… DUDE BEHAVIOR? Eew! I don’t need this conflict! I’m being argumentative for stupid illogical hormone-driven reasons, so I’m going to stop now, reassess the counter arguments because they might have been right all along, and maybe apologize before I end up going to prison for stabbing someone over a stupid verbal disagreement.”

I invite any and all to wipe the floor with me using facts and evidence though, and maybe I’ll learn some cool stuff along the way. But this is the hypothesis I’ve been running with just fine for years.

Also, fun fact, birds are kind of the opposite! They have ZZ and ZW hormones where the feminine reproductive caste is the changing variable!

We’re finally approaching some twisted semblance of equality via men becoming afraid of women in return ._.

Men who took the lesson to heart:
Ladies don’t want to talk to you.
They don’t want you to approach them.
They don’t want you to initiate social interaction.
Men need to be less visible, less audible, overall less perceptible, because this coincides with them being less obnoxious.

Instead of teaching them to act in less obnoxious ways, society taught them to act less–period.

And so, I now see unironic posts showing up on social media of women asking each other (paraphrased),
“Why don’t men ever talk to me anymore?”
“Why don’t men ever approach me anymore?”
“Even when I see men in public, they never even acknowledge me. Why are they ignoring me? What is going on?”

A lot of folks heard the pleas of women wishing men would just leave them alone. And a fair proportion of the men acquiesced.

I mean, yeah, SOME didn’t, and became even more obnoxious, but the chronically unfuckable bootlicking simps of the fascist grift are more miserable now than they’ve ever been; The few that “seem” “successful” are just poster children of survivorship bias, pied pipers leading the naive and highly suggestible to self-inflicted ruin.

I have divested myself of this bizarre tragedy of errors. Humans are humans. I treat humans like humans. If other people project weird freaky intentions upon me while I’m JUST trying to mind my own gods damned business existing within line of sight and vague proximity, that’s THEIR skill issue. AT LEAST nonbinary asexual persons never get weird at me like the ones vested in all the maladaptive notions and festooned in toxic stereotypes… and it’s refreshing. Good riddance to all the outdated reproductive caste dynamics. Good riddance to the gilded cage of having to drag-perform whatever the fuck I was assigned at birth.

Men looking for women as romantic partners is like searching for potable water in a desert.

When looking for men as romantic partners is like searching for potable water in a SWAMP.

Sufficiently advanced incompetence is indistinguishable from malice.

or quite possibly,

Sufficiently advanced malice tries to disguise itself as incompetence! >_>

S P I C Y P I L L O W

“do you know what ps/2 ports are?”

“holy cow, PlayStation 2? you must be AT LEAST 25!”

[dying inside intensifies]

The snopes article indicates that the study cited for reporting Tesla cars to have the most fatalities per billion miles driven cannot be validated

In sum, while the claims across social media are correct in saying a study did find Tesla to have the highest fatal accident rate of any car brand, the study itself uses data that is not available to the public. Therefore, although this does not mean the data is incorrect, it does mean that ensuring the study’s accuracy is not possible at this time.